So, I’m jumping on the band wagon and since today is #InternationalWomensDay I’ve decided to write I guess you could say, a bit more personal blog than other posts. Back in 2015, I wrote the first part of Interior You, Thank You. I was a few months into running my own business and ended up learning a lot more about myself than the actual business part of running my own business as a young woman in a dog eat dog industry.
Funny how that works.
It’s been revamped, but I hope this blog will somehow connect with a lot of you in some form or another. Not only women, but you fellas out there too. I hope you can relate this to your every day struggles of life because we all know they are real, but also finding that inner confidence of knowing you are capable of anything.
One important factor that I still believe in today is:
I will never be successful or stand out if I copy other people’s style. I used to have a problem with this, but now have realized that being you is the best thing you can be. I realize now that anything I do is just as great and up to par with everyone else’s projects. You know why? Because what I do is what defines me as not only as designer, but me as a human being.
Lack of self-confidence or sometimes even the lack of knowledge used to hold me back from doing a lot. This held me back from grasping a lot of great opportunities and also made me reconsider if I am really capable of being a designer in general. Do I still believe this?
I’ve learned to accept not only help from others but also learned to accept compliments. I’ve learned to understand that I am great at what I do and should be proud also happy that I have the chance to do something I love. At the clever age of 24, I can proudly say I own and run my own successful design business, I have a creative custom painted pillow retail line, I’ve partnered up with great contractors and been able to do anything and everything I love.
Most Proud Achievement So Far?
By stepping out of my comfort zone, I ended up landing a career defining project. I have been given the opportunity to help create and design head to toe, a community of homes in the beautiful sovereign island country in the eastern Caribbean Sea of St. Lucia. I can’t give anymore information other than this sh*t is B-I-G and I can’t wait to share it with you all. So stay tuned for updates 🙂
Enough about me, every woman should have confidence to embrace everything they love and hate about themselves. For me it’s through design others though fashion, makeup, cooking I can’t currently think of anymore but please feel free to comment below! So, let’s once again take a look on how to find AND embrace your design style. But first, I need to let you all in on a little secret that may, or may not cause me to lose my job but hey, apparently I’m still in a sharing mood! So, here it is……
EVERYONE IS A DESIGNER
Whether you have decorated a house or picked out an outfit, you have expressed creativity in some shape or form. Every person has their own unique perspective that they share through design. I don’t know about you, but I think it is rather boring when everyone and everything looks the same. Is it not more interesting when people step out of line and create something that is distinctly their own view on the way something should look?
With everything said, I have combined ways to help you encourage your inner design style.
Use your strengths
First find out what your strengths are. What excites you? What are some habits, hobbies or accomplishments that make you stand out? What have others complimented you on? Even go to the extent of asking the people around you to identify the strengths that they see in you. Once you have combined all our notes, put them into practice. For example, if you are great at drawing showcase your work in your home.
No one likes a follower
By this, I don’t mean you cannot find a source of inspiration, I mean DO NOT copy exactly what someone else has done. Taking aspects from someone else’s design is totally okay, BUT make sure you add your own design style to it. Remember there is a difference between what you are inspired by and what you personally have created yourself.
A little bit of this & a little bit of that
As J Cole would say, “Free your mind and everything’ll follow, won’t you”. Random, I know but he has a point. Spend a couple of hours experimenting with your rooms layout, colours and accents. Even though there are ‘rules’ to interior design, you should not always follow them. Keep in mind, that even though I or any other designer says ‘that is how it should be‘, it does not always have to be that way. I do not live with you, I do not have to see it everyday and my style is completely different from yours. So free your mind sit down with a pen and paper and develop a design you approve of.
MY BIGGEST PET PEEVE STILLLLLL! If you don’t have anything nice to say, shut your damn mouth. Soooo many times I have let people’s opinions distort my own feelings about things I have designed. There is difference between creative criticism and just flat out being a bitch. Not everyone is going to like what you do, that is why it is called personal style. Don’t let other people’s opinions destroy you. Hold true to yourself and your style, if you like it, that is all that matters. Be a badass.
So, set your personal style free and if people talk then you are doing something right. Stand out, be brave and do not hold back. Take a leap of faith, not only when it comes to your design style but life in general. Women need to start empowering each other not only in the design world, but also in real every day life. If you see something someone is doing or creating and you like it, say so! Encourage your fellow women DAMMIT! One compliment can change a whole persons outlook on life. Believe me when I say this.
One Final Note: Still so much love goes out to all who have encouraged me to break out on my own and make my dreams come true. Not a lot of people have that chance and I have been lucky enough to be able to. Of course as hokey as this is, it would not be possible without all of you. You know who you are.